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Maria P
Apr 13, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
This Artist explains how they define the seasons of creativity and what to expect from each. Especially how Winter is the scariest because everything is dormant it feels like you've lost your craft entirely.
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Maria P
Apr 13, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
If you don't know this song already. Welcome to the most encouraging earworm of all time. A tune I love, introduced to me by Pippa Evans, that puts be in a good mood. I hope it does the same for you too xx
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Maria P
Apr 13, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
This was the podcast I got this quote from. "People give up not because of their ability, but because of their inability to deal with their feelings." - Dr Marc Brackett - Behavioural Researcher & Professor at Yale Brene gets a bit gushy over this guy at the start but if you can get past that. There are some real nuggets in this episode. https://brenebrown.com/podcast/dr-marc-brackett-and-brene-on-permission-to-feel/
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Maria P
Apr 13, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
I know this sounds crazy but changing a password to something you want to keep in the front of mind kind of worked quite well for me. The main reason is it makes you think about it multiple times a day. Last year I changed my phone password to "Rocliffe" in numbers. Then with a mask and no face recognition, the number of times I had to spell that word into my phone per day (literally dozens) meant I was constantly reminded of it. It reminded me that the deadline of a writing competition called the Bafta Rocliffe was fast approaching and I needed to keep writing and editing my piece toward it. I honestly think it helped remind me it was something I wanted to achieve on the daily. PS: I've changed it now so you can't hack my phone... https://mind-hacks.wonderhowto.com/how-to/achieve-your-goals-by-changing-your-password-0159041/
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Maria P
Jan 08, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
I've mentioned this talk to a couple of people on their one to one calls. She talks about the trajectory of creative careers and how it differs from your average 9-5 professional career. "When I first started telling people that I wanted to be a writer, I was met with this same sort of fear-based reaction. People would say, "Aren't you afraid you're never going to have any success? Aren't you afraid the humiliation of rejection will kill you? Aren't you afraid that you're going to work your whole life at this craft and nothing's ever going to come of it and you're going to die on a scrap heap of broken dreams with your mouth filled with bitter ash of failure?" Another excerpts from this TED talk about artists and 'suffering' that stood out for me personally... We writers, we kind of do have that reputation, and not just writers, but creative people across all genres, it seems, have this reputation for being enormously mentally unstable. And all you have to do is look at the very grim death count in the 20th century alone, of really magnificent creative minds who died young and often at their own hands, you know? And even the ones who didn't literally commit suicide seem to be really undone by their gifts, you know. Norman Mailer, just before he died, last interview, he said, "Every one of my books has killed me a little more." An extraordinary statement to make about your life's work. But we don't even blink when we hear somebody say this, because we've heard that kind of stuff for so long and somehow we've completely internalised and accepted collectively this notion that creativity and suffering are somehow inherently linked and that artistry, in the end, will always ultimately lead to anguish. And the question that I want to ask everybody here today is are you guys all cool with that idea? Are you comfortable with that? Because you look at it even from an inch away and, you know -- I'm not at all comfortable with that assumption. I think it's odious. And I also think it's dangerous, and I don't want to see it perpetuated into the next century. I think it's better if we encourage our great creative minds to live.
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Maria P
Jan 03, 2021
In General Chat
I've emailed you as well but here's the info again. Please comment on this post which date you would like for your session. I’d like to offer each of you an extra 30 minute zoom call with me 1-to-1 (free of charge) where you can use that time in whatever way you wish. Things to look at could include: Continued Coaching Questions Goal structuring, planning How to prioritise Time management strategies Motivation strategies Or just to have a general chat about your aims This is an entirely optional session. If you feel you’re absolutely fine to crack on with your plan by yourself then go for it. I’m making space for these extra sessions in January on Tuesday-Fridays from 8-8:30pm GMT. How to book: Comment below on this post & wait to hear from me for confirmation. Thanks
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In General Chat
The main thing to remember about this model is it is constantly changing. Even if you are doing nothing, your comfort zone is shrinking. So in order to expand your comfort zone, look for doable stretches that provide a challenge but aren't too overwhelming. Also make sure you don't spend too long in the stretch zone as that leads to burn out over time. You do need to factor in recovery time in the comfort zone so you can reflect on your experience. For example, if you're learning to drive, it helps to gradually build up the time behind the wheel incrementally. Interspersing your driving lessons with the 'comfort zone' of being a passenger when others drive. This allows you to observe other confident drivers which can help you process your own experiences.
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In General Chat
When defining your goals, make sure they aren't vague and woolly.
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In General Chat
If you're going to continue coaching each other, please remember it is nobody's responsibility to be anyone else's full-time creative coach on this course. This forum is the place to come if you're stuck or struggling with anything and then anyone can chip in with questions/advice/books/articles if they have the time. Please don't put any expectations on other people to be 'there for you' when you need them. Achieving your goals is your responsibility alone 😊 The other thing to remember with coaching is that these things take time. Your aim in a coaching conversation is get to a point where the person being coached has the first. easiest next step to try (not the whole year mapped out perfectly). If you have any questions or concerns about this peer-support system PLEASE contact me immediately at hello@mariapeters.co.uk It's paramount to me that any mini groups created via this course feel safe and supportive spaces.
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
This was the one about joining the dots of your life/career in retrospect.
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
There are many different models in cognitive behavioural therapy. Most involve thoughts, feelings & behaviours. I like this one with physiology too because it helps to objectively view what your body is doing as well. From this website if you're interested in digging deeper. https://www.guelphtherapist.ca/blog/cognitive-behavioural-therapy-cbt-cognitve-therapy/
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Maria P
Jan 02, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
I've used the techniques in this talk to make MANY life decisions, from what kind of work to pursue and say yes to, as well as which car to buy!
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Maria P
Jan 01, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
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Maria P
Jan 01, 2021
In Inspiration & Motivation
If you don't have a spare 50 minutes to listen, here are some quotes and key points to summarise it: - Dr Lewis writes her in her book her definitions of each word with more clarity: "Mastery requires endurance. Mastery, a word we don't use often, is not the equivalent of what we might consider it's cognate: 'perfectionism' which is an inhuman aim motivated by a concern with how others view us. Mastery is also not the same as success, an event-based victory based on a peak point. A punctuated moment in time. Mastery is not merely a commitment to a goal but to a curved line. Constant pursuit." - Michael Angelo says "Lord grant that I desire more than I can accomplish" - That success tends to focus on 'the arrival' and Mastery focusses on 'the reach' Other things covered in this podcast also include: - Using experiences of failing to grow, that failure forces you to wipe clean and start over - How greatness can be deemed by others as 'not successful'. For example, Martin Luther King received his lowest grades in public speaking because his teacher didn't 'get' his style of speaking - Embracing the terror of the blank page/canvas and reframing it as opportunity - That you can't seize the opportunities failure presents if you're too caught up on belittling yourself about it "To reach an audacious goal, we sometimes benefit from having it lie just beyond our grasp" - To challenge what's possible - The importance of creating things in private before showing others - protect your work until you're ready "Success is going from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm" - Winston Churchill Anyone else who listens to this podcast - feel free to pop your favourite quotes in the comments too :)
Mastery Vs Success Podcast
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Maria P
Dec 26, 2020
In Inspiration & Motivation
This is lovely when you’re feeling like those doubting voices in your head are being quite loud
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Maria P
Dec 24, 2020
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